Sex Therapy

You’re tired of:

• feeling frustrated with low desire

• struggling with or to orgasm

• unwanted pain during sex

• wanting more sex than your partner

• not feeling desired by your partner

• feeling ashamed at wanting to explore a kink

You want to: feel sexual freedom, enjoy sex again, and feel satisfied in the bedroom and in your relationship.

I’m sure you never expected to be where you are right now- feeling lost, ashamed, or frustrated while searching the internet for help with your sex life. What started out as a frustrating concern can be further complicated by feelings of shame or embarrassment.  And how could it not? The media paints a picture of an effortlessly hot and steamy sex life. The message is everywhere: everyone BUT YOU is having amazing sex, all the time. So what’s missing for you? Where on your journey did you make the turn from hot and steamy to frustrating and disappointing. There are lots of different ways that sex can get “wonky” for people, which can impact how you feel about yourself and/or your partner(s). The reasons for these problems are typically multiple and can be complex. Some of the causes for these sexual concerns can include medical conditions, medication, aging, relationship issues, family background, religious messages, personal feelings about sex, confusion about your sexual and/or gender identity, your own mental health, stress, and other life changes that impact your well-being.

So what is sex therapy and why is it a crucial part of helping to resolve these issues? Sex therapy is talk therapy, for individuals and couples, that focuses on creating healthy physical and emotional intimacy. We’ll explore all the different pieces of the puzzle of who you are and how these pieces are aiding or hindering your ability to connect outside and inside the bedroom. Through education, physical and communication exercises we will identify the areas that one or both of you are struggling in and work together to create the outcome you desire. We will be focusing on helping you find ways to create pleasurable and enjoyable sexual experiences, as well as getting comfortable with your sexual sense of self (whatever that looks like for you!).

I will work with you to identify the factors contributing to your sexual difficulties in order to find the best approach(es) for treating them. Depending on the best course of action for you, your treatment could involve:

• Psychotherapy (sex therapy) with you or you and your partner

• Working with your medical provider(s)

• Working with a physical therapist, typically for sexual pain disorders

• Reading/Listening to books that complement the work we are doing (but don’t worry if reading isn’t your thing; we can find other ways to get the information)

I get it, I know how anxious you might feel talking about this intimate subject a near-stranger. Even though it might not be easy to talk about this stuff, please know that concerns about sex are common, and it’s great that you are considering addressing them! It’s okay if you don’t have it figured out. We can figure it out together, and my hope is to help you create pleasurable, satisfying, and authentic sexual experiences that leave you feeling good about yourself and your relationship(s).

You deserve to enjoy your sex life and it’s okay to ask for help in getting there!

What you can expect with me:

Individual Sex Therapy: We start individual sex therapy by getting to know one another and gathering information about your life experiences and history, the difficulties you are experiencing, and goals for our working together. That part usually takes the first few sessions. We will then work through those issues together at a comfortable (yet challenging enough) pace. My initial goal is to set you at ease, to get to know one another, create a trusting environment and guide you down a path of discovering more pleasure and joy in your sex life.

Couples Sex Therapy: I begin couples sex therapy by meeting with you and your partner together to understand your concerns from both of your perspectives and getting to know you as a couple. After that initial session, I meet with each person individually to talk about your own influences on the relationship and any additional concerns you may have. We will then meet together and discuss a plan of action for improving your sexual functioning as a couple. Sex Therapy will help you talk to your partner about sex, express your desires, lean into vulnerability, navigate anxiety and achieve optimal sexual health

Whether you’re seeking sex therapy as a couple or as an individual, the emphasis is always on tailoring our work together to your unique situation.

Common Themes in Sex Therapy

• Low sexual desire

• Sexual difficulties within a relationship

• Difficulties with orgasm

• Painful sexual intercourse

• Party and play or chemsex

• Sexual difficulties related to illness or medical treatment

• Sexual difficulties related to trauma

• Learning how to give & receive pleasure

• Learning to stay present in states of arousal

• Exploring fantasy play with your partner in a safe & trusting manner

This is a practice that is intentional about providing and maintaining a safe and culturally competent space for BIPOC individuals; we are LGBTQIA+ allied, and trans affirming.